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Needy Girls to Needed Girls?


In recent times I have noticed the strangest thing developing. I keep seeing girls I know who chased and chased a guy for years to no avail suddenly cropping up on my News Feed looking like married couples. As a girl who would never dream of following around a guy like a duckling until he loved me, I was totally confused. Aside from this, I didn't quite understand how it worked. 

A few years ago a friend of mine was embarrassingly obsessed with a completely mediocre guy. She would text and call him incessantly, send him naked photos of herself and beg him to give her the attention she craved. The main response he gave was pretending to his friends that he had nothing to do with her, laughing at her texts and showing them to everyone.

 Somehow today, this wholly disinterested guy she essentially used to stalk is now her boyfriend. Not just boyfriend in the normal sense for a 19 year old girl, where they might see each other a few times a week to watch a movie or go out but also have actual lives of their own. No, when I say boyfriend what I really should say is husband. They appear to have nothing in their lives but each other and seem to spend their time going from one expensive dinner to the next, void of any friends, fun or interaction with other human beings. 

I actually ran into this girl a couple of weeks ago in Starbucks. Having made no contact with each other in months I expected at the very least a "Hi, how are things?" but instead she dove straight into talking about her boyfriend. I don't think she actually noticed when I left the room because she was still talking. 

The funny thing is, I can't quite wrap my head around how this needy, self-indulged girl managed to turn a boy who hardly cared about her existence into what essentially appears to be her husband.
I've thought through a few different options. Hypnosis was one of them, or the possibility that she actually has three breasts. I even considered that maybe he'd loved her all along, but I didn't think it could be that far fetched.
Perhaps absence makes the heart grow fonder...and stalking makes it grow stronger?
I truly hope not. 

Either way it seems like after these girls keep forcing themselves into a guys life, somewhere a light-bulb goes off in their head and they think "I'm going to make this psycho my girlfriend, it will be nice."
And from there they spend every waking moment sucking the fun out of each others lives and playing house. This is honestly not the only couple I've seen this happen to, I've seen it over and over again.

The other part I've been thinking of though is why would the girl want this?
Don't get me wrong, I love the crap out of my boyfriend. He looks like a sheep and he makes a REALLY good cup of tea. But even so...I don't want to spend all my time sat at a dinner table with him forgetting all about my friends and more importantly myself. After all, how could that make any couple happy?
Even my parents who actually are married spend Thursday nights with each other and Saturday nights out with friends...and they're old as fuck. 

So my real question is: who are these girls, why do they do this and how does it make them happy?

I hope you enjoyed that little vent and would appreciate any comments/contributions

Olivia Jane

xx

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